What does your mind says when you’re Discourage

There’s a lot of things that makes us discourage, your dress today maybe or when you see your payslip (I hate to see this every cut off) I remember so much discouragement at my young age, those were the days that I felt left behind. So much more in these days wherein judgement and stereotyping is common in every community. There are a lot of chances that you might discourage just like what I mention above and you have to be strong no matter what.

There are several factors that drives us to be discourage including failures, hopelessness, demotivation, downgrading and indeed these are difficult to lift off. There are times that we needed support from our family and friends, you can always count on them, so that there is no stopping to anything that you wanted to do. Tale it from our thomas edison that had found thousand things that didnt work, he could have just stop from his third to fifth attempt but he didnt. Sometimes in our very edge of giving up there comes a little step to success.

To tell you what, my first book didnt make what I wanted to expect, and so i was disappointed to its result, come to a point that I wanted to give it off writing, I felt so unseen but I didnt stop from there. This book represents that I never feel defeated of discouragement for I continue writing why? Because writing is the only joy I have, also because I love writing, everytime I declined from doing it my mind gives me a lot of idea what to write and to continue writing, it gives me an undefined relief when I start to hold my pen.

My love in writing keeps my soul burning for another story to tell and another sheet to write on, even writing this part makes my mood eccentric, also there are times that im not in the mood to write but I can still move my pen. What im sayin is, If you really loved the things that you wanted to do, dont expect it to be the most wonderful things that anyone can see instead expect it to be the most worthwhile piece you had ever found, for you to feel the satisfaction that didnt come from the approval of others, that my friend is an infinite joy.

The importance of thriving this soul burning sensation gives you an endless reason to strive more, do not feel discourage because nothing worthwhile is easy, I bet that these way of thinking is what your mind really teach you. Remember if it doesnt work on the first try, you’ll find something to make it work on the next one.


What does your mind says when you’re Envy?

Not everyone are created equal, thats what makes people envious to one another. People who are privileged is either on top or below the chain. Other people commit crimes because of envy and the unprivileged are likely the victim of the dominant, that is why being contented of what you only have is what anyone wants to be, to get off the track. Envy is the cause of all the fetish, idolization, imitations that crawls society, you may not notice it as if it is an innocent fun, but once you start to grow comparison and crave for desires then eventually you will became a slave of envy.

When someone is abundant, we try to make wishful thinking like; “I wish I could have that.” And before you know it, you are starting to live with what others want. It’s no different in pretending to be something you’re not, there is no harm to being hopeful, appreciative, amazed with other people’s account as long as there’s no inclusion of fetish and lavish desires into an extent that you hate someone just because there’s one thing that you can’t have and the other person achieved and possessed.

But what does your mind says when you feel envy? It’s hard to admit sometimes when your envious, however theres no denial that your mind will intentionally say “you can have it if you do your best.” By means of doing the right effort, exerting optimized desires and using others success as a motivation instead of giving envious remark. Remember that your attitude will work its way to success, not effort nor will, your attitude to see the beautiful picture of other people success is substantial on your first step.

As a writer ofcourse I envy those successful and popular writer and authors that forge their success through their impeccable skills in writing on their books, but I use it as aspiration to become a good writer and finally become an author. My first book The Enemy Unseen is dedicated to look through the objectives of all the successful authors when they wrote their first book. The reason behind its written is what makes the book more interesting especially when its created to help other people.

So as mine, use envy as a positive aspiration to make your way to success and do not ever forget to use it the right way.

I got my book published tittled: The Enemy Unseen

Finally, after a year I had finished my first book and get the chance to publish an ebook through Amazon https://amzn.to/2MgD8uW. This is the first edition of The Enemy Unseen, the second edition willl be available soon. First edition is now available on Amazon for purchase through ebook and pretty soon it’ll be release through paperback. I am in awe on how it was paid off for all the times that I feel giving up

I am extending my gratitude to all the people who support me along the way. Please grab a copy, for this book mean so much to me as this book discussed what people needs to understand about depression and mental health awareness plus many ways to cope up against it.

Thanks to my family specially my parents..I love you guys…

How to break stereotyping

Everyone are unwittingly victim with this stigma, including me or even the highest delegate of human being, and everytime it happen to me or i see someone throwing casual opinion to another. It cringe me that people would have to say random thoughts just because it seems to be normal as it was used to be.

What are the common stereotypes? That includes cultures, gender profiling, and sometime it incorporates appearance.  I wont forget the first time i went to school in an well urbanize city i receive numerous stereotyping. It’s funny as i can remember, that  let say your about to say something and they know that you came from rural areas—Provinces and they imitate and scold you the way you speak, and the worst is disparaging you if there’s something that you don’t fathom enough due to a scarce information and technology that weren’t available in the province, the term is: “wala yan sa bundok” in my own relay in English translation it seems like shaming you because you don’t have it in your previous where-bout  and that your dumb just cause you don’t know anything about it. It does hurt my feelings and it’s hard for me to relate to other people and find new friends. I really thought that it’ll rattle me out, but it came to me that if i let em condescend me at all time, they will never stop, so i step up. There was a time in the first month of school-year that someone in school is trying to oppress me and scare the hell out of me, at the back of my mind it was the perfect time to prove them i am more than what they thought of me. I’m done using violent to apprehend someone so i did it differently, i told them i will do nothing against them unless they use force and that i won’t submit to anyone and anything, yes i came from the province and there’s a lot of things that i don’t know and understand but just give me a month and i’ll peer your knowledge, give me a year and i’ll excel and surpass your wit. There’s a lot of people who grow in the countryside that have unique talent and can potentially vie the people in borough. So if you came from remote area and trying to find your luck in the inner-city don’t be afraid to unleash and showcase your hidden ingenuity, and don’t get affected to what people say especially their stereotypes.

I was not good in academic back in the province, i guess i’m just not into it, not interested at all, and surprisingly when i’m about to accelerate, i just feel the like of learning everything. Lucky for me i found a tool to eliminate my stereotypes. I admit i was overwhelm and fascinated to the new culture and little did i know that i’ll be able to adapt the new type society. Now everytime is see anyone scolding someone’s  accent and demoting their knowledge for they came from the province, i proactively put up my stand.

Gender Profiling has the most overrated issue of all time conflicting what men can do and woman can’t and vice versa. In my own opinion both have differences by culture and tradition, there are other things that men can do that woman can’t in terms of behavioral express but that differ in every country, i don’t know here in the philippines men can walk down the street shirtless in addition to peeing just by the corner of the street, funny but that’s true and i don’t know if woman can do it, there might be but let’s just keep it a secret. On the other hand there are things that woman can do that men can’t, ultimately giving birth, in this one i salute every woman in the word, you really run this mother earth and it’s no denial, aside from that, there are few notable things that men can’t do that woman can, i won’t go deeper to it, i guess i’ll just have to sum it up.  In this new era we live in an equality type of society, there are things that woman can’t do before that now woman can, and that also involves the set up inside the family, in terms of manpower works it’s admirable that woman can now do what man does. It’s been boundless how changes come through between the differences of both parties. I’m just hoping that stereotype in gender profiling will end  in the next few years.

Appearance stereotypes, this is now becoming worst, especially to those what we call “judgmental” people. I can only remember one of my friend that has tattoo in his arms and his chest, then suddenly  someone ask me if he was convicted  of a crime. In recent years i was told that it’s almost a tradition in prison to put tattoo once you are incarcerated, that’s why till now people would tease someone with tattoo and would easily judge them as ex-con. Now i’m very much glad that people are gradually identifying them as an Artist, and we have to understand that “what others weird is another man’s wonderful” if it makes you feel ugly wearing tattoo, then it feels wonder to others. This addresses to all type of stereotyping by appearance, listen if you don’t have to say anything good to others perhaps minding your own business will do, also the world is full of hatred and insecurities already, how nice it would be to live in a world without the shame of  flaws and appreciate what others desire and just celebrate everyone’s individuality. Believe me, its more likely a beautiful place to be with. Let’s all together break the stigma, let us all put an end to stereotypes in all of it’s forms. There’s far more to discuss about this but how about you? are you a victim of a stereotype? i would like to hear it from you.

Breaking stereotypes doesn’t come in pattern, nor a formula, it’ll come in each and everyone to participate on it’s awareness and most importantly is to respect everyone’s individuality and their strength.

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