How to break stereotyping

Everyone are unwittingly victim with this stigma, including me or even the highest delegate of human being, and everytime it happen to me or i see someone throwing casual opinion to another. It cringe me that people would have to say random thoughts just because it seems to be normal as it was used to be.

What are the common stereotypes? That includes cultures, gender profiling, and sometime it incorporates appearance.  I wont forget the first time i went to school in an well urbanize city i receive numerous stereotyping. It’s funny as i can remember, that  let say your about to say something and they know that you came from rural areas—Provinces and they imitate and scold you the way you speak, and the worst is disparaging you if there’s something that you don’t fathom enough due to a scarce information and technology that weren’t available in the province, the term is: “wala yan sa bundok” in my own relay in English translation it seems like shaming you because you don’t have it in your previous where-bout  and that your dumb just cause you don’t know anything about it. It does hurt my feelings and it’s hard for me to relate to other people and find new friends. I really thought that it’ll rattle me out, but it came to me that if i let em condescend me at all time, they will never stop, so i step up. There was a time in the first month of school-year that someone in school is trying to oppress me and scare the hell out of me, at the back of my mind it was the perfect time to prove them i am more than what they thought of me. I’m done using violent to apprehend someone so i did it differently, i told them i will do nothing against them unless they use force and that i won’t submit to anyone and anything, yes i came from the province and there’s a lot of things that i don’t know and understand but just give me a month and i’ll peer your knowledge, give me a year and i’ll excel and surpass your wit. There’s a lot of people who grow in the countryside that have unique talent and can potentially vie the people in borough. So if you came from remote area and trying to find your luck in the inner-city don’t be afraid to unleash and showcase your hidden ingenuity, and don’t get affected to what people say especially their stereotypes.

I was not good in academic back in the province, i guess i’m just not into it, not interested at all, and surprisingly when i’m about to accelerate, i just feel the like of learning everything. Lucky for me i found a tool to eliminate my stereotypes. I admit i was overwhelm and fascinated to the new culture and little did i know that i’ll be able to adapt the new type society. Now everytime is see anyone scolding someone’s  accent and demoting their knowledge for they came from the province, i proactively put up my stand.

Gender Profiling has the most overrated issue of all time conflicting what men can do and woman can’t and vice versa. In my own opinion both have differences by culture and tradition, there are other things that men can do that woman can’t in terms of behavioral express but that differ in every country, i don’t know here in the philippines men can walk down the street shirtless in addition to peeing just by the corner of the street, funny but that’s true and i don’t know if woman can do it, there might be but let’s just keep it a secret. On the other hand there are things that woman can do that men can’t, ultimately giving birth, in this one i salute every woman in the word, you really run this mother earth and it’s no denial, aside from that, there are few notable things that men can’t do that woman can, i won’t go deeper to it, i guess i’ll just have to sum it up.  In this new era we live in an equality type of society, there are things that woman can’t do before that now woman can, and that also involves the set up inside the family, in terms of manpower works it’s admirable that woman can now do what man does. It’s been boundless how changes come through between the differences of both parties. I’m just hoping that stereotype in gender profiling will end  in the next few years.

Appearance stereotypes, this is now becoming worst, especially to those what we call “judgmental” people. I can only remember one of my friend that has tattoo in his arms and his chest, then suddenly  someone ask me if he was convicted  of a crime. In recent years i was told that it’s almost a tradition in prison to put tattoo once you are incarcerated, that’s why till now people would tease someone with tattoo and would easily judge them as ex-con. Now i’m very much glad that people are gradually identifying them as an Artist, and we have to understand that “what others weird is another man’s wonderful” if it makes you feel ugly wearing tattoo, then it feels wonder to others. This addresses to all type of stereotyping by appearance, listen if you don’t have to say anything good to others perhaps minding your own business will do, also the world is full of hatred and insecurities already, how nice it would be to live in a world without the shame of  flaws and appreciate what others desire and just celebrate everyone’s individuality. Believe me, its more likely a beautiful place to be with. Let’s all together break the stigma, let us all put an end to stereotypes in all of it’s forms. There’s far more to discuss about this but how about you? are you a victim of a stereotype? i would like to hear it from you.

Breaking stereotypes doesn’t come in pattern, nor a formula, it’ll come in each and everyone to participate on it’s awareness and most importantly is to respect everyone’s individuality and their strength.

The unhealthy taste of suppressed emotion

 

“I have to be strong, cause i don’t want people teased my weakness, and ultimately, i have to be strong because this is the only way for me to feel better, only that it weren’t”. There’s always a collateral price in playing foolish games. Suppressing your emotion instruct you to fabricate your true feeling to make you feel okay and it’s no difference in telling lies to other people.

It will caught you in your least expected time. I had an article about it already that states how i was caught by an old friend (Depression-this was my suppressed emotion started when i was just a kid) in my unanticipated phase of time. It feels like you were chased for several years and the time of arrest comes behind your mind. That time i don’t even know what to do. It was a strange feeling and consuming, it’s no surprise cause the price i pay is precious, but i didn’t let it claim. I have to deny every charged presented to cope up to this bad guy, and eventually i was able to win the battle. There are fragments of the said condition that sometimes occupied my mind but since i know how to fight it, to apprehend and exercise best remedies to benefit ease. I know how to handle it.

Grief is sometimes the main suspects, especially when it started at a young age. Mine started at my juvenile. And most of the event that cause this problem is when a person face a loss in the family. This is indeed, the most tragic occurrence in life. This is the time that emotional support should be present at all times to prevent breakdowns, and sometimes for you to hold on is to be strong at somehow, even concealing your true emotion will desperately be an option, to gain composure, however showing physical and appearance strength doesn’t necessarily suggests that you are emotionally tough. even when you know your dying inside you still have the gut to fight it, but is it healthy? it may flex your tenacity towards grief but hiding it even for a long time will caught you so bad.

Pretending to be okay when not is becoming a stereotype, just like what i’m saying, it’s part of our subconscious, it’s okay sometimes cause that will recognize how strong you are as a person but to hold it for a long period of time also accrue a higher price.

How can we avoid it? You are definitely at your lowest point during the times of these things, and having someone to lean on and to talk to will be an essential and a fundamental to start up again, especially if that person shares the same situation before, he or she will probably understands your current circumstances. Your family, your friends is a perfect delegate.

Learn to vent out. During the times that i was in my lowest point of my life i always make sure that i have some best practice to vent out to tell my story. One of which is writing, in this platform i was able to discharge everything my soul has to confess, my heart has to tell, and my mind to relate. i would say that writing plays the most conducive way to survive downsides. Now the second one is being physically healthy. When in time that your mind became your antagonist, it has the potential to turn it your supporter by helping your mind and body become healthy-what your mind can conceive your body will achieve remember. It has been 3 years being committed to fitness until now and i am even planning to make my own channel to content fitness lifestyle, i just hope it will work. Now if you have something to vent out, any activity that will revitalize you personality and well being, i encourage you to do so. If you needed some piece of advice to embark you can visit my other site https://digitalbookmedia.wordpress.com to guide you some other ways to vent out.

I know it won’t be easy for you and for us, if there’s only a shortcut, then it would be, but there’s no one. Do not wish to bypass and make relief, there’s always a certain time to process everything but believe me, time will come and you will meet your resolve. Acceptance will also help you out, if there’s something you don’t understand and you can’t admit, try to broaden your thinking and see the bigger picture of you that could possibly establish a calming comprehension to obtain peace of your mind. I want you to know that you are not alone, that there’s always be one person to trust your emotion and be free in suppressing your true feeling, if you needed to cry, that’s perfectly fine, share your thoughts, shout it out, let it diminish in your consciousness, don’t leave any baggage, tell everything and we will listen. trust someone and be outspoken.

The beauty of an Island

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After of almost a day of travel by land, I am up now to travel by water, and i was so surprise how calm it was, because prior to that day there was a bad weather update beforehand, but it didn’t bother at all, and it is pleasing cause my travel gone by morning so the view of the top of the mountains are very much exclusive to my eyes, so many wonders that i forget to sleep to gain some rest.

All the way from one point of an island to another it was a feast of scenic view to my eyes, i just wish it won’t end that soon, i had the hang of it and i’m craving for more, well perhaps my intuition did not fail me, because after a spectacular island hopping there was another taste a cinematic island entourage.

An entourage of bountyful beach shore, wait! why did i say that, mainly because the road or the national highway is paved along the edge of the island, so it was an unlimited treat of impressive structures of every different beaches along the way.

The island is known for its superstitious belief, that’s why every people are discreet during the travel, but it wasn’t giving me trouble at all, cause beyond its spooky backstory it wasn’t a hindrance for me to appreciate to beauty that lies within the island.

The first two hours was an utterly astonishing ocean waves that merely wipes the wrinkles of the shore, the formation of the mountains, everyone makes it’s own shapes that if you have a playful mind you’ll be encourage to create a portrait of nature art.

Aside from the impeccable view possessed by the island, there was also a please for food and their endemic foodstuffs are mouthful, a variety of chips, fruits, and its specific dried fish are unavoidable.

At the end of the island is our own pride longest bridge of all time, and the view from above is unbelievable, if there’s one thing i’d like to walk through, i would love to stroll along that bridge, i know one day i’ll be able to. i hate to see the end of that travel, it makes me feel a story without a happy ending but i have to accept the fact the whatever comes along your day or along your way, ‘live’ and ‘let go’ but keep the memories.

I’ll count on my next travel soon and i hope i could do this all my life.

 


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The beauty from the outside

 

So i just have this whim travel this week, and i never thought it could went well, but thankfully it did.

I always wanted to travel alone with no much of a baggage, cause that’s the whole point of it, leaving all your baggage’s, make yourself shell out from stress and make retreat, to find a way to love yourself again and to appreciate life one more time, (oh life you are full of misery).

I went all the way to a bus terminal at exactly 2 am in the morning, and the place at that time was barren very unlikely when it’s daytime, because that place ever since is a whole lot crowded, you can see different types of people roaming around. So primarily that was the only time i see the silence and peace along that area. Going back, I’ve waited for  12 hours just for the bus to depart in a cause of filling up all the seats and even it was, it wont leave until it’s time. Yup! that was very exhausting not to mention starving, but it’s all fine for me, i don’t complain that much.

But everything was paid off when the bus went mile away and stroll along beautiful view of the province, i can’t still remember those scenic sight. Especially when the sunset begin to fall and embrace within the branches of evergreen trees and the walls of the mountains that creates shape on the flat of the ocean.

I’m so in love with those unbelievable sight and that was indescribable feeling (soaring, tumbling, freewheeling) just kidding! But honestly i feel like Aladdin that time but without jasmine (sad emoji) anyway i like the movie though, especially the genie, that was classic. After the beautiful offer of sunset i’m starting to admire the beauty of the skies so bright, the milky way is doing his job to amaze all the people below.

The sparks of the stars brought me to a simulation of an another simulation of wonders and adventures while my mouth is open (ops) but that drools serve me well, i like the experience that full of surprises, to many delight and glee, nothing bestowed but to make me feel special cause god had shown his perfectly made art, i wish i could see that again. i wish i could have the chance to travel again, and next time i’ll make sure i am able to capture it. It was midnight when i finish and satisfied myself with bunch of pretty overlooking just the exact time to rest and leave my mind at ease, i’ll talk about it in my next blog. See yah!

 

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A whole new start

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I’m in a lowest point of my life right now, and this one cost me a lot, i have to give up everything i have, forget everything i plan, forget and start. But do i have enough? I don’t.

Sometimes when you face setback over and over again, you make yourself feel like you don’t learn something from your past and eventually self pity, but at the same time it’s giving you some point of view that this one, had been resolved before and so i’ll make it this time once again, that’s why this concern comes into surface, until when do i have to commit this mistakes till everything make sense to me?

I had lost track of my blog within this week for i have to focus on myself, and i made a break from basically everything, i had this kind of consciousness that everything i do and everything I’ve done is for the sake of other people, i don’t mind doing favor for myself, yes! i once again forget to love myself and anything that lies within.

All of this resembles a perfect example of my previous complication, see this is the one i am pertaining to, that once you were hit with the same stone, you’ll cope with the same aid, but i know it shouldn’t be hitting countless time, there should be limit, and that kind of limitation is one thing i’m planning to focus on. from now on, i’ll start from scratch and rise up from the bottom and balance everything to dualy took care of myself and arise at the same time.

I guess the answer to my question, until when do i have to commit this trials til everything make sense to me, is not to sum up all of it, i’d say i’ll keep on doing those mistakes (just like the song by shakira) i’ll try everything (love that song by the way) so, officially this my fresh start, good god help me.

 


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